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  • March19th

    Have you ever had one of those times that made you step back and say – is this really happening? Only to realize that yes, yes it is indeed happening and you are caught smack dab in the middle of A Series of Unfathomable Events…..

    …the conclusion…

    It only took one minute of me standing in the customer service line before I turned to my new friend, College Girl Jen and proclaimed: I’m renting a car. Do you want to ride with me? She proceeded to phone her mom and ask what she should do, being only 19 she assured her mom that I was indeed 26 and could rent the car (as I shouted over the phone – I promise..I’m NOT crazy! *because that sounds completely legit…). Her mom’s reply? “Oh, just do it!” Golden. I had a passenger to help me stay awake for the ride and split the cost. Done.

    The College Boy who gave such a valiant attempt at making the flight happened to be behind us in line. I turned to him and said well – we’re renting a car and driving to Charleston….do you want to ride with us? He thought about it for a moment. (again I muttered, I promise – I’m not crazy. I just want to go home. *at this point I was realizing how crazy I indeed sounded offering rides to COMPLETE strangers at 11:15 at night.) It was as if a light bulb turned on in his mind as he debated then said “You know what…yea…I’m in…let’s do this!” Woo wooo another passenger in the bag!

    We started to meander away from customer service as I turned around to let The Shrink know the situation, offering him an in on it. As with the other two, he hesitated – thought for a bit – and then said let me check with my buddy (The Dad). After a bit of chatter between the two, phones were hung up and they were out of the line, officially part of this crazy scheme of driving home. But there we were, 5 jilted passengers standing in front of customer service, at the cross roads for the night thinking -

    OK. Do we do this? Do we really get in a car with 4 other strangers and drive for 5 1/2 hours? The answer my friends is: Well, why the Hell not?!

    And we were off to rent a car. The initial introductions were made – hi, [insert name, mental status, how you happened to get stuck in this particular situation] – you know, the norm. I caught myself sitting on the train looking at my new found best friends, thinking to myself…Oh Jennie Boo! I hope I don’t end up on Dateline or 20/20, because this could be one of those situations. BUT then again, I was in the company of 2 doctors and 2 college students..technically I was the odd ball.

    College Boy College Girl Jen The Dad I'm not Crazy The Shrink

    After making it over to the rental car area we were quick to discover there were NO cars available for our situation. NO ONE would rent us a one way car to Charleston right then and there. (Which by the way I knew was a lie because I had called a car company earlier and there WAS a car but I hadn’t made the reservation – My b.) So we split up, each of us taking a car company to tackle until one of us – The Dad – secured a vehicle. During this process, The Shrink was about to give up on us but I insisted we were going home tonight! Solidarity. We were all in this and I wasn’t gonna let anybody back out now.Packing the Car

    Midnight: all five of us are loaded up in the SUV (making sure everyone hit the restroom before hand) and finally heading out to the airport. Estimated drive time? 5 1/2 hours. The Dad was driving. First mission – grab some take out food for the ride. At this point I was able to throw out my “actually, I’m a vegan…” joke which I’ll admit I had been saving for the opportune moment that finally came. (pulled off seamlessly, might I add) *not that there’s anything wrong with being vegan, I’m just a meat & potatoes kind of gal.* Taco Bell food at 12:30 a.m.? Check. Surplus of Mountain Dew to drink? Check. Back on the road….

    Are You Kidding ME

    About two hours later we stop at the rest stop where me and Jen hop out of the car only to walk up to a “Closed for Cleaning” sign on the women’s bathroom. Seriously?!? Are you KIDDING ME right now?!??! Do you have ANY idea how much Mountain Dew I’ve been drinking to stay awake?? And then we turned around to see another door that wasn’t closed. :) As we were walking out I casually mentioned to Jen- You know, I bet they moved the car. Stupid boys….of course they did. Apparently even at 2 something in the morning these kids still had jokes. [insert sarcastic Awesome here] haha

    Back on the highway and things are running smoothly, good convos going, everyone (except The Shrink) is awake, The Dad’s still driving, the College Boy is navigating, things are going well. Low and behold what do we see?

    Flashing Blue Lights

    Flashing Blue Lights

    Of course. Because no spur of the moment, out of this world, early Monday morning road trip would be complete without being pulled over by a State Trooper. Thank you, state of Georgia. The look on the Trooper’s face when he saw inside our vehicle was priceless. I’m sure he was wondering the same thing we all were at some point, what on Earth is going on here?! Which is probably why he pulled The Dad out of the car for a little chatter, opted to let us all go with a warning and we were back on our way. Thank you officer for not implanting another thorn in our sides!

    The Warning Ticket

    The car ride continued with a few more jokes, stories and shenanigans. It would be impossible for me to recount all which was said as I was way past delirious at this point and pushing 24 hours sans sleep. My phone died so I unfortunately had to stop documenting the journey with blurry photos. I would however like to throw out a big thanks to my new friend Jen, for saying she had to go to the restroom again because I was too chicken to say I had to go again because I didn’t want them to yell at me. :)

    We rolled into the airport at roughly around 5:30. None of us had slept yet, except for The Shrink who drifted in and out the whole ride. (20 miles outside of Charleston our gas light came on – of course!) We had found out that we could possibly be reimbursed for the portions of the tickets we didn’t use and as for the car, we’d have to take that up with the gate agent. It was on. We all pile out of the car and head into the gate together. Tired. Wired. Past the point of delirium and entering the state of disillusioned. Solidarity. We were finishing this off the same way we started. 5 random strangers on a mission. What happens? No dice on the rental car reimbursement, but they offered us each a voucher. The Dad and The Shrink filed claims for their luggage as me and the College Kids turned in the car. We met back at baggage claim where we all said our goodbyes and parted ways at 6 a.m.

    This is the point in the night where I got a little sad.

    It all started with one crazy idea…and 7 hours later it was all ending.

    Five strangers who hadn’t known each other were now bonded forever by a mere handful of life’s hours. It was odd saying goodbye, but it was also odd that such an attachment had formed in such a small amount of time. Lack of sleep apparently can do that to you sometimes – hah. I drove the College Kids downtown, dropped them off then headed home where I promptly walked into my house at 6:45 – just enough time to shower, get ready and head off to work. I worked a full day and eventually returned home to fall asleep at 6. (after having been awake for 35 hours) And so dear readers, that is where I’ve been all week. A little out of the loop and still trying to get back on a normal track. Sometimes life takes you around a few unexpected curves and I’ve learned the best thing to do is make sure your seat belt is buckled & just go.

    I want to say a huge THANK YOU to my fellow passengers for believing me when I said I’m not crazy, for jumping on board, and for one of the most unforgettable stories of my life.

  • March18th

    Have you ever had one of those times that made you step back and say – is this really happening? Only to realize that yes, yes it is indeed happening and you are caught smack dab in the middle of A Series of Unfathomable Events…..

    I knew it was going to be a crazy trip when I switched travel plans at the 11th hour Thursday night from driving to Mississippi to flying into Memphis for the weekend for a dear friend’s engagement party. Friday and Saturday were wonderful and come Sunday it was time to leave. When you have to pull off on the side of the road for an emergency stop having not even driven 2 miles – there’s a good chance it’s going to be one of those trips back. (And that my friends is an understatement..)

    I arrived at the Memphis airport 2 hours before my flight, checked in and discovered my flight was over booked. Times like these is when a seat number on your ticket is equal to a bar of gold in your pocket. My flight was scheduled to leave at 5. Overbooked and now delayed, we board only to sit on the run way for a “ground stop” in Atlanta. Nearly 2 hours later we leave. I was pushing it to get to my connection, which according to the web site was  running late itself. We land at 9 – my connection was listed as “boarding”. The red seas parted as I dart off the plane, carry on & hanging bag in tow, running down the terminal to make it to my flight. As I approached the gate I saw the door closing. I pleaded with the desk attendants to let me on MY flight but they refused saying the flight was closed and no more seats were available.  According to airline policy, flights close 10 minutes prior to departure time and there are no if’s and’s or but’s about it! They did however point me to the terminal where I could check on the later flight to Charleston. Apparently they are no longer able to assist you in any way until a flight opens up exactly one hour before departure time. My immediate response:

    Let Me On My Flight - Home Alone

    You made that up!!

    (which probably wasn’t the best but it slipped out) My pleas did not work. Off to the next stop it was….

    I treck it to the next terminal to stand in line and wait patiently to grab a seat on the last flight to Charleston. I soon discovered that a 4 o’clock flight was completely canceled due to maintenance and all 150 of those passengers were stuck on stand by for MY flight and now THIS flight. [insert sarcastic Awesome here] As the stand by list populated I went from number 3…to 8…to 23….to 34. I texted my boss to let him know the situation as my hopes for getting on the flight were quickly fading. My suspicions were confirmed as the flight closed and I was still rather low on the list. I had struck up a conversation with a girl who is a student at the College of Charleston, Jen. Poor thing had been one of those passengers on that 4 o’clock and still didn’t make it on this flight. The next thing I know, 2 guys (the dad & the shrink) come running down the terminal to get on the flight. My heart went out to them as I knew exactly what was going to happen — they weren’t getting on that jumbo jet — stupid “10 minute” rule. Way to rub it in their face Gaylord Fockeras you let 3 people from the stand by list on right in front of them. One was even reprimanded for touching the door as he was pleading to get on the flight. I thought we almost had a Gaylord Focker moment – Sir step AWAY from the door! Step AWAY from the door, sir! Now! (Yikes) And then there was the 3rd guy (College Boy) who turned into a track star in attempts to get to the gate on time…..only to find out it was a no go for getting on the plane. *note: the 3 guys were on the same plane…which had landed 20 minutes prior but couldn’t find a gate to pull up to. So again it wasn’t their fault for not making it before that 10 minute-r kicked in.* Yet again we are all told they could do nothing for us there at the gate and that we must go to customer service and figure out our next step.

    :: a few details which lead up to the next part – I was not able to get a hotel voucher as the reason I missed my flight was due to “weather conditions” – it is now 11 o’clock at night – I hadn’t heard back from my boss and my office manager had the day off on Monday – I could only be confirmed on a flight for 2:30 Monday afternoon, the earlier ones I could again sit on stand by (ummmm obviously that didn’t work out too great the first time buddy, thanks but no thanks) – Atlanta is a good 5-5 1/2 hours from Charleston – if we attempted to re-book a flight on a different airline, WE had to pay for the ticket. ::

    The line at Customer Service was indescribably long and would have taken a minimum of two hours, and let’s be serious – this air line hadn’t been all that helpful and friendly up to this point and something was telling me things weren’t going to change in the near future. But regardless, the 5 jilted passengers started the hike up to customer service to attempt a final plea of our cases. As I walked something inside of me started to get revved up.

    I was going home. Tonight. No doubt in my mind. This girl was going home.

    -•-

    …to be continued…

  • January17th

    Like I said last week, I’m celebrating — and I’m celebrating the whole week. Which is odd for me because I’ve historically never wanted to celebrate my birthday, would even shy away when people would call it my birthday (it was transformed into “Jennifer Day” at work) and yes I still get incredibly nervous / shaky / embarrassed and even cry when people sing Happy Birthday. I know, odd quirk of mine, BUT this year I’m trying out this whole celebration thing, and figured if I’m gonna do it…….do it up big and all week long……..SO…………here we go…………..

    Since I’m new at this “let’s publicly go all out for my birthday” situation I decided I’d start the week off with a great friend, one of my loving Bigs, awesome inspirer and just all around cool kid to know – Casey from A Five Leaf Clover.

    She actually lives just down the street from me so yesterday I hopped in the car and drove to Savannah, Georgia for the night. Road Trips are my favorite — absolutely adore Road Trips — and as always I did a lot of thinkin’, a lil singin’ and quite a bit of laughin’ along the way. I have a pretty good musical selection to choose from, but  Sugarland is one of my favorite bands to listen to while driving down an open road.

    I love all of their songs, but one stuck out to me on this trip. I’ve decided it will be Theme Song #1 for my 26th year of living. (notice I gave it a number-my life is a walking sound track) The song is Settlin. I caught myself smiling and laughing non-stop whenever it would come on and I’d keep playing it on repeat over and over. It’s jam packed with great lyrics but a few in particular happen to make me sing a little louder:

    It’s my life..so it’s mine to make..I ain’t Settlin..for just gettin by.

    Find what it means to be The Girl….who changed her mind and changed the world. I ain’t Settlin’….

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PG0pC5Xz01w

    (if you have trouble viewing this video please click here)

    Not a bad frame of mind to start out this whole week long B-Day celebration, huh? You know, this whole celebration thing might not be so bad….and to think, the week is only just beginning…

    besos, Jennie B.

  • December9th

    When you moonlight at The Sassy Steel Magnolia, you of course get to choose that week’s Music Snack!  Read below to find out which song our guest blogger, Angie Mizzell, selected…..(I’ve had her pick playing on repeat since I got the song yesterday!)

    Yesterday, I shared a story about a cross country road trip… a journey that took me 3,000 miles away, but ultimately right back, to home. I listened to Strength, Courage and Wisdom by India Arie many, many times along the way. I still listen to this song whenever I need to reconnect with that girl on the road. I hope it speaks to you and inspires you to seize this day, to step out on faith, and embrace your own Strength, Courage and Wisdom.

    Dear Sassy Steel Magnolia readers, I hope you’ve enjoyed having our Guest Blogger, Angie, take over for the week. We’ll have to see if we can talk her into coming back again soon. In the mean time cruise on over to her site or check her out here on Hybrid Mom.

    Thanks again to Angie and thanks again to all you awesome readers out there!

    Keep an eye out on Monday for a new weekly feature — The Sassy Starter — to help you get your week started in a Sassy Way ;)

  • December8th

    angie mizzell ...under the MACThis week I am very honored to say that The Sassy Steel Magnolia has been taken over by the incredibly talented, amazingly inspiring , always entertaining, fellow friend, blogger and SSM, Angie Mizzell. You may remember when she asked me a few questions for one of her posts back in June or maybe you’ve heard me mention my Writing Yoda — that’s her, one in the same.

     This week she’s giving us a glimpse into the journey she herself traveled on that (sometimes) long road to home. They say home is where the heart is, or home is where you lay your hat — but the real home — the home you feel most comfortable, safe, unafraid of your vulnerability — is the home you were born with, grew up with and live with each and everyday. At times we get lost or take a little longer than expected but always, always we return to the comforts of our own home.

    So take a few moments and relax as Angie takes us down her road & reveals one of her secret sides..

     In my late 20’s I was the morning anchor at a television station in Charleston, “the hometown girl done good.” I had all the things I had strived for up to that point… a successful career, great husband, new construction home. I was living and working in a city I loved, the place I grew up.
     
    But I was far from home. I felt lost and unhappy, and I didn’t know exactly why. Sure, I was tired. The morning shift was tough. My husband, also in TV, worked on the opposite end of the clock.  Some mornings, he was coming home as my alarm was going off. And each day, I put on the suit and the makeup and pushed the deadline. I always made my slot, turning “on” at the count of 3-2-1, and I did my job well.
     
    For many years I told people, “I can’t imagine doing anything else.” Then one day, I started to wonder. Is this really what I’m supposed to be doing with my life? That question terrified me. I wasn’t supposed to be asking that question. I had already come so far. Wasn’t it time to start living happily ever after?
     
    Despite my efforts to wrap my life into a perfect little bow, on the inside I was a tangled mess.
     
    Around that time, my husband was offered a job in Portland, Oregon, and we agreed he should take it. The job needed him ASAP, so he went ahead of me. I’ll never forget the morning I stood on the sidewalk and watched him drive away. His Jeep Wrangler faded into the distance, and I turned back towards our brand new house. I took a picture of it in my mind.
     
    Within two months, I had quit my job, sold our house, said dozens of goodbyes.  Finally, all the boxes were loaded. I climbed up into the moving truck and drove away.
     
    There’s something about driving a really large vehicle across the country with all your personal belongings stuffed in the back (did I mention I was also towing my Hyundai?) that brings you to a whole new level of awareness. For me, perhaps, it was the very real possibility of running over a compact car or flying off the side of a mountain.

    All Roads Lead to Home

    On the road, I felt awake, in control. With my hands on the steering wheel, admiring the changing landscape as I crossed each state line, I was fully present. I wasn’t afraid. I can do this. My heart was heavy, but I did not cry. I wasn’t crushed by my emotions; they simply moved through me.

    My destination was Portland, but beyond that, I didn’t really have a plan.

    No plan. Seriously? I had been in forward motion since my senior year of college. The internship. The first producer job. Convincing the boss to give me a shot on air. Getting the anchor desk. Getting married. Buying the house.
     
    I had a few interviews set up, but the truth was (psst… don’t tell anyone) I didn’t really want a job. I really wanted to take a break. And I did take a break, which is a whole other story which involves lots of trips to Starbucks, self-help books, too many infomercials and some unfortunate incidents with hair dye. Scratch cosmetologist off my list of many talents.
     
    Anyway, the point of the story is this: On the road, stripped of all the outward markers of my identity, I got a glimpse of her– the authentic side of myself. The one who’s willing to shed the façade, the need to “appear” successful and what other people think. The one who can drive a big ass truck across the country.
     
    I had been so busy building a career and a life that looked good on paper that I had forgotten to stay in touch with her. We were best friends, back when we were kids. She knew me better than anyone. She was creative and carefree and was lots of fun to be around. She had a kind heart and wanted the best for people, and for herself. She knew what was truly important in life.
     
    My journey eventually took me full circle– back to Charleston. But today, I can tell you I’m truly at home. Whenever I feel lost, I remember to connect with that girl on the road.

    Then I remember that she is me.

     

    I want to say a huge Thank You to Angie – you are indeed the epitome of a Sassy Steel Magnolia and we are honored to have you here on the site. Such a great story, mixed with your usual humorous undertones, makes for an incredible and inspiring story for all to read. We can’t wait till you get your Memoirs written and we can bug you for a signed copy…hint..hint ;)

    For more great stories from Angie head on over to her site: …under the MAC  and stay tuned for her Music Snack selection, coming up tomorrow.